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Let's just hope things go better with my own parents...
So I'm told writing these things but not sending them is a good way to help deal with grievances you could never realistically air...
Dear In-laws,
I am becoming increasingly uncomfortable with your attitude towards myself, Jess and our friends re. polyamory. That you are considering punching me should we meet again does not make me wish to see you again. Your constant accusations that what we are doing is wrong, your extremely offensive racist undertones ("It's not what we do in this country"), the accusation that I am incapable of either thinking for myself ("He sounds like he's been brainwashed") or happy with the choices I have made for myself and my relationship are beginning to strain what friendship I have developed with you both.
Please, if you can't understand Polyamory or why we do it then please just move to accepting that it is something we do and nothing you say can or will change that. The only thing you are likely to achieve with your constant harassment on the subject is the eviction of yourselves from our lives. This is not an option I want to explore but as you both become more and more unpleasant it is becoming a much more desirable option than putting up with yourselves.
I hope you will take this message to heart and you will just accept that this is what makes me and Jess happy and stop your harassment on the subject and we can all just move on with what was, up to now, a very pleasant and happy arrangement.
Yours sincerely,
Alex
TL;DR: Politely, go fuck yourselves.
Dear In-laws,
I am becoming increasingly uncomfortable with your attitude towards myself, Jess and our friends re. polyamory. That you are considering punching me should we meet again does not make me wish to see you again. Your constant accusations that what we are doing is wrong, your extremely offensive racist undertones ("It's not what we do in this country"), the accusation that I am incapable of either thinking for myself ("He sounds like he's been brainwashed") or happy with the choices I have made for myself and my relationship are beginning to strain what friendship I have developed with you both.
Please, if you can't understand Polyamory or why we do it then please just move to accepting that it is something we do and nothing you say can or will change that. The only thing you are likely to achieve with your constant harassment on the subject is the eviction of yourselves from our lives. This is not an option I want to explore but as you both become more and more unpleasant it is becoming a much more desirable option than putting up with yourselves.
I hope you will take this message to heart and you will just accept that this is what makes me and Jess happy and stop your harassment on the subject and we can all just move on with what was, up to now, a very pleasant and happy arrangement.
Yours sincerely,
Alex
TL;DR: Politely, go fuck yourselves.