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Oh my deity indeed.

Initial thoughts? I’m happy with the results.

The show is getting a huge on-line slating for it’s handling of the issues (and believe me, when you’re going to do an episode on transgender and then use the line “I look like a tranny” 3 times in 10 minutes, you’re DOING IT WRONG) and although I’m certain they won’t pull the show (ITV != Fox), I doubt many will be watching by the time the polyamory segment rolls round.

The good news as well is that damage should be pretty limited. Watching the show, it seems polyamory will end up being slipped in as a 5 minute filler. Tonight’s one was “OMG She’s changing her FB relationship status!”. No, really. 5 minutes for a couple changing their relationship status to single on Facebook and the immediate response. Such top quality programming, it’s like why do we even need the BBC any more…

Mirrored from Contradiction In Terms.

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(or where I’ll be over the next few weeks)

So I’ve got the next couple of months busied up already with only a couple of plans likely to change. I’d love to see as many of you as possible, so if you can make these events please let me know so I can look forward to seeing you!

26-27 February: Mine and Una’s 6 months <3

5-6 March: A trip to the Greenwich Maritime Museum, the last week before they start charging for entry. If you want to join us, let me know.

12-13: DD should be visiting from the states and will hopefully be throwing a party in London. Very much looking forward to seeing her again.

19-20: Another American friend, this time a partner of Nomad, will be in Oxford so a gaming party is being thrown. Should be lots of fun, expecting plenty of The Shinin’

26-27: I’ll be at the March For the Alternative followed by a relaxed Sunday. There is a Pink & Black Bloc I intend to meld into. I’d love to meet up with anyone else who’s going so I’m not on my lonesome (Jess will be busy packing for her 3am flight to Amsterdam!)

2-3 April: The one weekend that is looking empty. Please feel free to offer/suggest/request lovely things to do *grin*

(Thursday) 7-10:  I’m turning 24 on the 7th. The actual day I’m having off work and am, again, open to offerings or suggestions of stuff to do, but otherwise it’s a “Gaming, Metal and Chocolate” day of personal indulgence. The Friday I finally get to see Machine Supremacy OHMYGODYES! The weekend itself is still a little up in the air but hoping to spend it mostly cuddled up with my loves.

16-17: The God Has Got His Hat On party over at Franklin’s. The parties reputation precede themselves, but I’ve yet to experience one myself. Very much looking forward to seeing a lot of people I rarely do there as well as old favourites!

23-24: The actual weekend for celebrating mine and Una’s birthday, expect lots of terrible movies and chocolate. Space will be pretty tight so we need to draw up an invite list which sucks but cramming 50 people in a small house is not half as fun as you might think!

30-1 May: National Student Pride, but whether I go or not is still in doubt, there are rumours a lot of it is NUS Card Holders only.

I really hope I get to see as many of you lovely people as I can! I was giving serious consideration to getting a job in London so I could see people in the evenings, but then I went and busied up all my week nights with stuff happening in Oxford (whoops!).

*lots and lots of hugs*

Mirrored from Contradiction In Terms.

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So I’m sure you’ve noticed the recent move (again) from one journal site to another. I had an idea I wanted to share in more than a Facebook status or note so I thought about giving this WordPress contraption a go.

It’s rare I genuinely wish I’d tried something sooner, but my goodness is WordPress good. I’ve had to configure one file (a standard and well laid out config.php)  and create a database but that was it! Even the LJ/DW crossposter installed with nothing more than asking for my login details. Amazing!

The layout is excellent. The reason I kept going back to LJ to post is because DW’s layout is just… bad. I can’t put my finger on it but it’s just not good. And the comments moderation is pretty slick as well. Yep, I like this WordPress thing. Who knows, maybe this’ll make me start posting more?

Mirrored from Contradiction In Terms.

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I can haz personal blog site?

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This turned up in the info@bisexual-oxford.org.uk inbox today and I thought I'd share it with you all.


I wonder if you can help me. I am working on a new series for ITV2 due to transmit in early 2011. The format is a brand new take on a problem show giving people the opportunity to tell their stories directly to their peers in a series which will uniquely reflect the experience and cultures of this generation.

With this in mind we thought we’d contact you to see if you could help. I’m really keen to include people within the show who are bi sexual and polyamourous along with the various problems that this may or may not bring to everyday life. Would you be able to spread the word to your contacts and members at all and see if they are interested? Here is some more info – please do let me know if you have any questions or feel free to have a chat with me on 0207 157 3197.

OMG! Totally Peaches is a brand new take on a problem show, hosted by Peaches Geldof.

With professional advice from experts we will aim to help find a resolution to your problems. The show will revolve around the confessions, compulsions, problems and obsessions and dilemmas of you, the ITV2 viewer.

If you have a problem and you’d like advice or help please contact problem@itv.com

Thanks and look forward to hearing from you. Perhaps you can add something to your website/email database/or twitter account?

Look forward to hearing from you.

Kind Regards,

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Oh my, I have not yet shared this with you lovely LJ people. (Unless you're on [livejournal.com profile] polyamory_uk)

So, [livejournal.com profile] opencon was A-freaking-mazing and you should totally be there next year. I had offered to help out in the earlier days (like, before I even knew who [livejournal.com profile] werenerd was in the real world) but nothing had come of it/been requested so I spent as much time as I could on-desk as possible, especially at the start, showing arrivals to their accommodation. That the desk was located right in the middle of the venue so was usually surrounded by lovelies was an enormous perk.

There were a few structured activities, including a talk from Dr Deborah Anapol, but most of the weekend activities were run off a DIY Workshop schedule consisting of post-it notes and eagerness. There was also an excellent "Idea Pit" where people could suggest workshops without having to facilitate them. This worked really nicely and there was quite a range of workshops run over the weekend.

I ran 3 workshops because I was feeling crazy being helpful. One I devised myself, OpenStories, which was all about sharing favourite poly stories. That was really fun, even if one did get a little TMI, the others were very entertaining.

The second workshop I ran was Fun And Games, after the person who was originally planned to run it couldn't make it. This one went excellently, despite the low temperature outside. Psychiatrist was particularly fun with [livejournal.com profile] livinglibertine assuming the role of House and nailing the diagnosis ("I am God") in one followed by lots of "Yes, Yes, No, *wibble wibble wibble*" in front of a very stumped Vicky. Excellent times.

The final workshop was probably the most affecting. Suggested originally by R and placed in the "Idea Pit", Poly Activism was something I immediately offered to run and placed it in the remaining slot I had in my day. We did a bit of gentle chatting, getting a feel for where everyone was and wanted to talk about before dividing the remaining time into two sections; Goals and Activism. We filled an A3 sheet with ideas for what we, as non-monogamous people, wanted from the rest of the world. Then we moved on to ways to achieve these goals. We had a ton of awesome ideas and I wrote down as many as I could. Then I took everyone's email address and promised a write-up of the notes.

I came out of that workshop incredibly energised. We had goals, we had ways of achieving those goals. It was an awesome feeling. As Opencon wrapped up there was a real buzz in the air, even the organisers commented on feeling eager to do it again. On a personal note, Opencon was exactly what I needed after the extremely heavy BiCon this year.

I had a couple of days off following Opencon so I found myself staying up late, culminating in actually getting the notes written up and sent out that night *proud*. The idea for a central website, full of activism and community articles to act as a UK centric hub kept floating around. Monday I was trying to come up with a name that would work well when the ever amazing [livejournal.com profile] tartful_dodger suggested Polytical.

The plan is to launch on 19th November, a day before Polyday so I can get the word out there. If you would be interested in writing an article, how-to guide, personal story, blog review, anything non-monogamy centric at all, please let me know.

So yes. Opencon was fabulous, I have a wonderful new project to work on, things are good.
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Me and my dad are in the process of patching things up. He's sent me a very sincere apology and has acted more-or-less as the (very kind) comments suggested he would.

Thank you so for much for the supportive comments and offers of support, they mean a lot and are extended back, likewise.

Now to look very much forward to OpenCon tomorrow!
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I need to put this down in writing, if only because I don't know how deep this is going to affect me.

This evening I received a phone call from my father. Backstory: My dad has been my child hood hero for as long as I can remember. He crawled and saved and worked his way up from an awful home to give me the amazing life I've had. I have modelled my own life on that work, striving my hardest to give my family the best I can. He was part of the very foundation of my identity. Accepting, funny, always good to talk to.

This evening I got a phone call. It started off on a weird note, asking me about my (adopted-but-I-prefer-him-to-my-genetic) granddad, who is a reverend, and if I think it's strange that a man as intelligent as my granddad can believe in something as ridiculous as the Bible to the point of preaching it. He's 80, was a Chaplain in Africa in WW2. I was never surprised by him being a reverend. That's A) what they did back then and B) he's been in world-war-fucking-two. I think he's allowed to believe what he wants. Also, he never pushed it on me. Apparently there was a bit of pressure to get me baptised, but otherwise I've never once had him push the word of God on me.

So my dad goes on a bit before starting to ask me if I've ever wondered about those big questions in life; "Why are we here?" "What happens when we die?" "What's the meaning of it all?". The ones I answered for myself about... 6 years ago. So I say yes and ask why. Then he starts going on about how he had found this group who he had the answers for him. Some self help group that prays on people who have lost their direction and foists Christianity on them. The one that isn't for alcoholics. I'm sure you've seen "The Alpha Course" advertised. I know I did about 3 years ago and wrote it off as no better than Scientology, just they didn't charge you for it. I told my dad this and got a very negative reaction. "Bitter" he called me. "No, disenfranchised" I replied (and was ignored).

So proceeded a very traumatic 20 minutes of my own father pushing this manipulistic clap-trap on me. The core point was thus:
He asked if I had these questions, and I told him yes about 6 years ago and I have my own answers. I told him I am happy with my own spirituality and being and purpose on this planet. He then said "Well if you have these questions you should ask this group", ignoring that I already had the fucking answers that I needed. At some point he questioned how I could know my answers were right and as good as called me wrong.

Please note: Not once did he ask me what my answers were.

Clearly getting very frustrated with him, I started to break down. This wasn't my Dad, this wasn't the man I'd idolised and looked up to ever since I can remember. And if it was he was attacking some of my most core values.

I told him he had hurt me with this phone call and he said "Good". That was it for me. I told him to apologise and he said "No."

The last words I said to my father were "Fuck you, dad." before hanging up. I'm so angry and confused and frustrated and overwhelmed and lost. I don't know what to do or where to go from here. I spoke to [profile] miss_amaranth for a while which helped in the short term but going forward... well I don't see how.

I need him to apologise. To realise what he did was hurtful and cruel and unnecessary. I want my dad back.
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So I should probably report back on what I've been up to. France is the big one, a week long holiday in a châteaux in the Loire Valley with the House of Joy 'n' Friends. Honestly, there was so much good stuff that I don't think I'll remember even half of it. Suffice to say, second best holiday ever. (The best was when me and [profile] miss_amaranth got engaged, so it's only second on a technicality!)

Losing a few years due to the stress of surviving Parisian roads. Huge thanks to [profile] lord_don for not getting us killed, despite the French trying super hard.
Being awoken by a beautiful sounding owl at 6am and only being able to think "STFU STUPID OWL".
Waking up in a châteaux, in France. Sure beats Backdane!
Getting to meet some very lovely new people.
Getting to know some people much better.
Finding more kitties to fuss and be fussed by!
Cthulhu Chicken, Cthulhu Piggy (gribble!) and Failboat.
Purely cuddle cuddle pile.
[profile] werenerd being as awesome as always.
Tasty tasty food. Especially chocolate bread. Nom!
Lounging around in the pool, naked with many lovelies.
Losing 3 hours cuddled and (accidentally) napping with [personal profile] serina_ds.
Missing [profile] fred_wednesday, making every day feel that little bit longer.
Playing Underground.
Watching the beautiful people.
Rebooting the Castle.
A mouthful of cereal watching a naked (and very bouncy) [personal profile] emanix gather up ice and warm water.
Carrying on as normal afterwards.
Gaming with [profile] lord_don.

"Heaven is lying on a comfy mattress, in front of a fire, being stroked by 2 beautiful girls as they watch you play Pokémon."

I can't thank [profile] werenerd and [personal profile] emanix (and everyone else involved in putting the whole thing together) enough for such a wonderful holiday! And everyone who was there, thank you for making it as amazing as it was.

ION: Me and [profile] fred_wednesday are doing really nicely. We've been on a date, spent lots of time together and I'm very very glad I'm on a contract with unlimited texts *grin*

And, as I have already mentioned, I've blagged myself a new job! Awesome times! It's working for a pretty specialised company, developing a web based application in C#. They're really eager to get me started so I hope to be there from Nov 1st. It's in Summertown at the moment, with plans to move to Cowley at some point. The better pay means that, hopefully, I'll finally be able to stop watching every bloody penny (as I have been doing since I lost my job at Andrew Francis, despite being employed ever since!) which will be nice. It should also mean I have a few quid for actually treating people with. Also, as I'm going to need a bus pass anyway, doing things in Oxford has become a lot less expensive as I won't have to pay the bus fare any more! Also, as I'll be in Oxford already meeting up with friends after work can certainly be considered too!


Sep. 24th, 2010 05:34 pm
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Bigger update re: France and [profile] fred_wednesday wonderfulness coming soon.

For now: OH MY WORD I GOT A NEW JOB!!! Pay is 3k better, 3 more holidays and really strong career prospects, including all external training paid for *grin bounce happy dance*
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Right, argh, there's a lot happening at once here. If I mess anything up please bare with me. Also, if you've not got a different LJ name please let me know who you are over there :)
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A combination of drama, NRE and lack of money meant this BiCon was nowhere near as social as I had been planning/hoping/wanting it to be. If you did want to say anything to me anonymously, I have my comment box you can use. Otherwise, hopefully I will be able to catch up with once-a-year lovelies at some other point.

If nothing else, I fully plan to do OpenCon completely differently and actually (holy fuck) talk to lots of people I've never spoken to as well as catch up with people I do know. If you plan to be there, I will see you there and hopefully be in a much better place for it.
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1) Pancakes NOM! Chocolate Spread Pancakes: Breakfast of Champions!
2) Checking bags
3) BiCon!

See everyone there :D
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Last weekend was very, very fun.

On Friday me and [livejournal.com profile] miss_amaranth went to Oblivion, our first ever fetish club with RJ and V. It also turned out that [livejournal.com profile] fire_kitten, DD and [livejournal.com profile] xanna were there so it was much easier to relax with even more people we knew being there. Given the nature of it all, I might make a [filter:kink] post about the activities at some point...

On Saturday it was RJ's belated birthday party. We met a whole bunch of fun and awesome people, including [livejournal.com profile] fred_wednesday who was particularly lovely. During the day there was lots of relaxing, talking and chilling. The main talking point was how the dinner was being cooked. A few large sides of meat were prepared, wrapped in tin foil, put on the embers of the fire, and buried. 7 hours later, they were dug up, unwrapped and was some of the tastiest meat I've ever had. I was very impressed.

As the evening continued there was cuddles, kisses, relaxation and a wonderfully chilled out atmosphere throughout. I chatted to lots of lovely new people, was involved in a cuddle puddle and there was a very lovely poly moment.

During the night there was a huge thunderstorm. Very unnerving to be in a tent with that going off around you, but the tent we were in held up wonderfully, not a drop of water got in.

Sunday was more of the same with lots of relaxing, a hearty breakfast, cuddles, conversation and a group effort cleaning everything up meant that it didn't really feel like a lot of work at all.

Now, I'm very busy getting everything packed for BiCon! Exciting times! See most of you there *grin bounce*
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So I realise these things are probably sent as a mail shot to a million and one people, but there's something awesome about being asked if I'd be interested to help write the software that will be used to help build Satellites.

It's like, when you want to show off your work, you could be all like "See that star? I helped build that." That'd be Sweet.
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This time last year me and [livejournal.com profile] miss_amaranth were setting off to catch a train to Worcester, terrified of being caught out by her parents, not even sure why we were doing this, sworn off polyamory and had never used LiveJournal before.

Thank you, all of you, for an absolutely amazing year.

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Would anyone be interested in joining myself, [livejournal.com profile] miss_amaranth and [livejournal.com profile] anarchist_nomad to go see John Shuttleworth on November 4th (in Swindon) or 5th (in Reading)?

Here are the gig details.

His latest song is under the cut )

Comment if you'd like to join us. Also - can't wait to see lots of you at BiCon! Exciting times!
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I just found a note from the person who sold me the Rope which read "I hope you (and your family?) get pleasure from your purchase"

That's a little weird...
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Anything that makes me get up at 0530 on a Saturday has got to be something worth doing. And it so was.

In Brighton for 9:30 and at the meeting point for 9:45, a drawn out period of "hurry up and wait" followed as the parade amassed. Me and [livejournal.com profile] miss_amaranth were marching with the Sussex LGBTQ group, closely (and mingled in with) the Socialist Workers. I have a rant against them (particularly their attitude to/at Pride) brewing but I will leave it be for now.

The march could only be described as intense. The heat wasn't helping, but with such a huge number of people, but with none of the wide open spaces afforded to somewhere like London, the overall effect was much more in-your-face. There was also a lot of revelry in the parade that left me feeling more than a little uncomfortable.

We covered what felt like a very large distance (probably 2 miles) and the whole city was involved - rainbow flags everywhere, even the shops, was a sight I haven't seen anywhere else. The park itself was crazy busy and the Bi Meet at the stall was excellent, something I really think we should consider doing again at some of the other prides.

We spent the rest of the day hanging out with [livejournal.com profile] sunflower_29 and finally got a lift home to Jess' aunt's about 10pm where we promptly went splat. Sunday was dedicated to recovering before heading home.

Brighton has left me with some mixed feelings - much more so than the other prides I've attended. What's odd is where they lie. I loved that the whole city seemed to be involved, rainbow flags everywhere and streets closed for the whole day was amazing. The actual parade and festival though left a somewhat bitter taste.

The parade seemed badly managed, it was far too long. I was very glad I'd brought a big bottle of water with me or we would have had to bail early. It was also massively overpriced, £45 for volunteer groups is messed up. Then to have the nerve to bug people constantly for donations is just testament that someone, somewhere, is making far too much money from this.

One of the big things I noticed at the festival was that for a lot of people this was a piss-up and nothing more. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate it's meant to be a party but, I don't know, I just didn't like the atmosphere there. I do avoid music festivals for this reason though so maybe that has something to do with it. There was a good community village though (I'm looking at you, London) and the Bi Stall was excellent. It seems they were the only ones who came prepared for the wind though!

There were also some major organisational concerns. Food sellers were heavily overcharging (£3 for a small box of chips) and there wasn't a single extra bin provided. The mess was horrific by the time we left and still looked awful from the quick glimpse I caught on the train home as it passed the park. Why there weren't skips dotted around (like at Oxford), I don't know.

This post is coming across far too negative. The Pride was amazing, with the whole city getting involved and seeing so many people out-and-proud both in the parade and in the crowd. I'm going next year, undoubtedly and the whole weekend was a blast.

Very much looking forward to the much more sedate plans we have this weekend though. Ice cream, anyone? *grin*
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The BiCon Schedule is up! However, if you're finding it a little... tight, as I was, then there's a copy over at http://xmakina.co.uk/bicon2010.html. FYI, I totally stole the table so don't think I have any kind of say in what it says *grin*


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